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Hello everyone welcome back to my. channel my name is eva lupine and today. i have another video for you all today. we are gonna be talking about five. different types of play that new people. commonly assume is much safer than it is. this was inspired by a conversation that. I had at a recent much so thank you very. much Claudia for the inspiration for. this video it is very much appreciated. they actually prepared some questions. shocked but during the Munch and this. was a really big inspiration for me and. I really wanted to talk about it more. and make a whole video about it because. I’m very passionate about safety I’m. very passionate about consent I’m very. passionate about talking to new people. in the community and helping them have a. more accurate sense of what play is. actually like and how it actually plays.

Out in the real world so again today. we’re going to be talking about five. different types of play that new people. commonly assume is much safer than it. really is disclaimer is this is not. going to be video where I talk about how. to do these types of play safely I do. not have nearly enough time to cover how. to do five different types of play. completely safely all in one video I. have covered some of these types of. playing other videos links to those will. be down below if you want to learn more. in general if you want to learn about. any type of play of BDSM the best way to. do that is to go to classes and find. somebody that you can learn from who has. a lot of experience with doing that type. of play the Internet is not a complete. resource it is very easy to find. misinformation it is very easy to be.

Misled or misinterpret something and. being able to talk to somebody in real. life and watch demonstrations is. completely invaluable when it is. possible to do so so anyways let’s talk. about the number one thing I see that. new people commonly believe is it a lot. safer than it really is and that is. joking I don’t know how many. conversations I have had with new people. I don’t know how many conversations I’ve. overheard with new people who are just. getting started in the scene and say oh. I don’t really know what I like yeah I. don’t want to go to hardcore I think I. just want to maybe start with some some. choking you may be some blindfolds it’s. like whoa whoa. back up this is one of those things. where if you are in the community and. you have had the opportunity to take. classes and learn from others you will.

Find out immediately how much breadth. play is considered to be edge play and. that is what we generally refer to. choking as in the community we refer to. it as breadth play although technically. the recommended way of actually choking. somebody is not actually restricting. their breath at least not directly over. the trachea but rather by compression. around the blood vessels around the neck. now again not an instructional video. this is something I really think you. should learn in real life I myself have. taken many classes from doctors EMTs. surgeons etc who have to deal with. things around people choking and having. their breath of their blood pressure on. everyday basis so I recommend learning. from them if you want to know how to do. it safely but when it comes to rip to. you somebody’s breath and choking all of.

This area right here is extremely. delicate it is very easy to accidentally. restrict something for too long to use a. device to assist with it that is very. difficult to remove it makes it much. more difficult to communicate and to use. safe words and to tell your partner how. you were dealing with something it’s. very easy to activate or aggravate an. underlying medical condition it’s very. easy to be in a situation where you fall. and you hurt something that way because. if you know the technique and you’re. like I know what to do Evie I have taken. classes about this I know how to do. breath play I did judo well the issue is. not necessarily with the technique so. much it is the situation and how people. decide to apply this because just. recently there were somebody who has. extensive experience in BDSM who killed.

A longterm partner because they. miscalculated breath play because again. it’s not so much about being able to do. this to me because it is being able to. communicate and how that impacts. communication and putting yourself in a. safe situation so where if something. does go wrong you are not trapped. somewhere you are not dealing with. having the concussion or having your. face bleeding or breaking something your. head because you’ve choked somebody to. passing out and then they have hit their. head on the nightstand table or on the. corner of the spanking bench or on the. same Andrew’s cross or on the toys you. had if they fell on the floor. so many things can go wrong with it and. it’s really something that I don’t think. you should be messing with and it’s not. a good first step into BDSM by any means. no matter how much people sometimes use.

It as a kinky stepping stone into the. larger BDSM community in that same. framework the second thing that I see a. lot of new people believe is a lot safer. than it really is is hair pulling and. face slapping I’m kind of combining. these both together because I think I. kind of share a lot of similar issues. hair pulling is one of those things that. like choking is common in sort of try. spice latte vanilla type of bedroom. situations where you said a little bit. kinky people just want to experiment. they want to step their toes in but. don’t necessarily know all the potential. ramifications for the kind of play or. how to do it safely because people are. not generally instructed in this people. do not generally learn how to safely. pull hair and their sex ed classes so. people tend to do it they seem important.

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They see in movies and when they don’t. realize is that very often times when. you are watching a movie or when you are. seeing something from a theater. production or you’re seeing something. for porno they aren’t really pulling any. hair. they have very convincing techniques to. make it look as though the hair is being. pulled without pulling any of it and. with the help of a willing actor such as. somebody again in a porno or in a movie. they can look very much like the hair is. being pulled so people don’t really know. the correct technique so they just grab. some air and pull straight back and that. is when it gets really dangerous because. if you are in a situation where somebody. is not expecting their their head to get. pulled in as hard and as fast as you. were doing it you can like like. basically do that too fast and you could.

Cause fractures you can cause breakages. you can cause nerves to get pinched so. you can cause all kinds of crazy to. happen if you pull on somebody’s hair. too hard too fast to it unexpectedly at. the wrong direction. it’s something you need to be careful of. and it’s something. you need to be calculated with something. that is really important that all tops. learn is to know their own strengths and. so that means you can’t make excuses. like oh well I hurt her neck because I. didn’t realize how hard I was pulling. before you do that you should know how. hard you are pulling this is especially. important when it comes to face slapping. you do not need to go like like fullon. as hard as possible when you are face. slapping against it’s not a porno this. is not the movies they’re not actors who. are making it look worse than it really.

Is like in order to get the desired. effect from face slapping you don’t need. to go completely backhanded that is how. you break a nose or a jaw or lose a. tooth or something that like breath. politely like any other kind of play you. do need to be calculated with it you do. need to be very intentional with it and. it’s again very easy to mess up and. again something you can also very easily. learn from a BDSM class or talking to. somebody with more experience in the. BDSM scene who can’t explain to you in. more detail what the risks are and how. to do it safely the third thing that I. see that a lot of people believe is. safer than it really is is rope bondage. rope bondage is everywhere there is a. huge subcommunity BDSM for people who. are rope enthusiasts that are riggers. who are rope bunnies who are rope.

Bottoms who love love love live and. breathe rope and it’s also very common. in pornography and has for a very long. time been a main feature of a lot of. fetish porn and again that leads to a. lot of misconceptions about what is it. is not safe in bondage there are a lot. of situations where just as actors and. shows might do something to make hair. pull in your face slapping seem more. intense than it really is in bondage. porn there are a lot of little little. tricks and levers and hidden things that. will make actually very very dangerous. ties a lot safer that you may not know. about when you are attempting it on your. own and even very simple ties in robot. edge can potentially be lifealtering. not necessarily lifethreatening in the. fact that they will cause death but. there are a lot of nerves especially in.

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The arm in certain parts of the leg in. various other locations on the body you. need. aware of before you attempt to do rope. on it because you can cause nerve damage. and that is the big thing here now I’ve. gone a whole spiel about the difference. between circulation and nerve. compression and how one does necessarily. lead to the other but you can have. things really sneak up on you just. because somebody’s limbs are not turning. purple doesn’t mean that they’re not at. risk just because somebody’s limbs are. purple doesn’t mean that they are at. risk and when it comes to rope bondage. if you don’t know how to check in if you. don’t know how to locate where nerves. are and your party doesn’t know how to. communicate different feelings with you. or thinks that a certain sensation. should be expected you could easily end.

Up in a situation where your partner is. unable to raise their hand or erase. their arm or make any movements with. other parts of their fingers other parts. of their body and it’s very very. difficult if not impossible to treat it. is difficult to know how long it’s going. to last it’s gonna be a day a month a. year forever very hard to tell so rope. bondage is something as well that I. think you need to have a good. understanding of anatomy you need to. have a good understanding of how to. communicate sensations and feelings you. need to have a good understanding of the. actual construction of it it’s a lot. more difficult than just slapping some. rope on and and tying it up really. quickly because you know how to sail you. know sailing knots no no I’ve actually. had two or three different people who. are DTaP identified going to Munch’s.

Going to parties for the first time and. they see me and my partner doing rope. bondage and they start a conversation. based on that which is fine and then. they immediately go into well like you. know I know. climbing knots and it’s like that has. absolutely no application to this. activity you know it’s like just because. you have it’s like a skill in one area. doesn’t mean you know how to have a. skill another area like because you know. how to sign your own name does not know. you mean you know how to do calligraphy. like it’s it’s not something that is. nearly as related to some other skills. involving rope as as one might think so. it’s a little bit dangerous to go into. it assuming oh well you know I know a. bunch of climbing not so therefore I’ll. be really good at rope bondage is not. necessarily the logic you want to go.

Into if you. are interested in doing rope bondage so. now the next one number four in terms of. things that people think is a lot safer. than it really is. is wax play now I do definitely have a. video talking about wax playing on my. channel if you do want to learn some. good skills and some ways to be able to. do this safely link to that down below. but west play is one of those things. where people see or hear dripping wax on. a partner and they don’t necessarily. think a whole lot beyond that and so. they’re like oh so you just like get a. candle and light a candle then you just. drip it on whereas like many things in. kink you do have to consider the the. context you have to consider the fact. that it’s not just about lighting a. candle and dripping it over your lover’s. body you have to be aware of the. temperature the candle burns out you.

Have to be aware of the flame you have. to be aware if they’re wearing any. clothing what the bedsheets are made out. of how you’re going to be able to remove. stains how are you gonna be able to. remove wax what do you do if there’s. burns can the wax that you use cause. burns is it something that’s safe you. know all sorts of things like that that. can occur because people just think okay. I’ll grab my favorite bath and body were. extensive candle all lighted up and then. I’ll drip it on my partner right over. the top of their skin which is like a. oneway ticket to some serious burns. right there. ideally wax play should be done with. candles that are suited to the purpose. of wax play something that does not have. fragrance in it something that doesn’t. have anything that would raise. significantly the temperature at which.

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The wax melts and ideally you should be. starting from a pretty high up location. you shouldn’t need to be right on top of. their skin to be able to put wax on them. it should be from a pretty significant. height and people don’t realize the. danger of having an open flame next to a. bed and not considering that you may. knock over the candle or drop it while. you’re trying to drip wax and have the. sheets catch on fire or accidentally. giving your partner serious burns. because you thought that the bath and. Bodyworks candle was fine but really it. burns at like 150 degrees or something. ridiculous like that. just be aware not all wax is the same. and wax play is more than just dripping. wax it’s a lot more thoughtful than that. now the fifth and final thing that. newbies think is a lot safer than it. really is is actually some implement.

Some BDSM toys and I am pairing these. together because I don’t think they’re. quite big enough to be their own. categories but that would be nipple. clamps and handcuffs and like face. slapping and hair pulling I think this. is something that a lot of people go. into and they’re like oh I’ve seen it in. a porno I don’t know how to do that. yada yada and that’s not not really how. it goes I think handcuffs are something. that are not super commonly used in BDSM. scenes by people who are pretty. experienced and the reason for that is. is that handcuffs are easy to mess up it. is really easy to cause nerve damage by. getting something that is too small. putting on your partner and then. clamping it down as tight as it will go. it’s something that’s not meant to be. comfortable and it’s meant to restrain. people and we needs it on a partner and.

They’re wearing it for two hours and I’m. struggling against it you could break. skin you cause irritation again you. could cause a nerve damage depending on. how and where you are using the handcuff. and it’s also really freaking easy to. lose the keys like if you have a. situation where you have strapped. somebody into some leather cuffs or you. are doing rope bond or something get a. pair of scissors and cut through it and. it sucks and it’s it makes you want to. cry having to cut through expensive BDSM. gear but you can’t cut through a. handcuff so when a handcuff is on if. you’re doing the kinky BDSM stuff and. you’re like put the keys over here and. then the cat comes in the room and the. cats like great keys I love playing with. keys and the cat mysteriously takes the. keys away and they are never ever seen.

Again because the cat is mischievious. that way. oopsie your partner is now permanently. locked in the handcuffs and that’s gonna. be a real embarrassing phone call to. make to the fire department that you. need to have somebody come and cut your. partner out of the handcuffs now I know. that they make ones that are like. quickrelease or like safety release. handcuffs. and those are a little bit better but. they still don’t have the ideal form of. bondage and the risks for nerve damage. and abrasions from struggling against. them is the fact they aren’t comfortable. in general definitely makes them a lot. less safe than what a lot of newbies. assume similarly nipple clamps are one. of those things where people kind of. just don’t think about how they should. be used like they don’t think about. nipple clamps what will that do to my.

Body. besides produce an intense sensation. well ideally nipple clamps depending on. the type and the person’s individual. anatomy shouldn’t really be on for any. longer 8 to 15 minutes nipple clamps. are not meant for longterm wear. surprisingly enough they are not meant. to last for the entire two hours of a. scene they are more an accompaniment to. a seam rather than something that’s. gonna be on for the entire two hours the. reason for that being really. uncomfortable and it can cause nerve and. tissue damage relatively quickly because. of how much pressure is being applied to. such a concentrated area I do know. people who have lost sensation in their. nipples because of wearing nipple clamps. for too long and it’s a risk it’s not. really a risk you’re going to hear. anything about but it is something that.

Happens so it’s something you need to be. aware of nipple clamps well I think they. are something you can start off with in. BDSM not necessarily something that you. can just put on and not think about. again you do have to be mindful of how. you apply them how much pressure is on. them and how long you’ve left them on. for because again risk for nerve and. tissue damage so those are all five of. the reasons so those are all five of the. most common things that I see that new. people in BDSM think are a lot safer. than they really are. I think technically it could may be. called us a list of seven because I. combined two but I wanted to keep it at. five so we’re keeping it a 5 anyways. hopefully you guys find this interesting. and helpful let me know what you think. down below do you have any forms of play. that you believe new people believe is a.

Lot safer than it really is if you are a. new person do you have any questions. about these types of play do you love to. know your thoughts if you want to see. more from me more videos related stuff. like that you can check that all out in. the description box below if you haven’t. already. and you want to see more for me I do. recommend subscribing to this channel I. make videos twice a week and finally if. you really want to support my channel if. you want to help me make better content. more content the best way to do that is. on patreon link to that will be down. below and on the end screen and that is. what makes this channel possible and. that is what makes it possible for me to. be able to have conversations with you. all and produce exclusive videos and all. that fun stuff. anyways and tell us you guys next time.

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